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By : Judy Chammas   
Let’s Talk about Sex, Baby
If you are thinking of spending the rest of your life with that special someone forever, do you really know them as well as you think? Are there things you need to know about, or they need to know about you, that you haven't discussed?
The best time to find out the smallest details about each other is before you say, "I do." You need to know what to expect after the wedding day, and to decide if you really want to spend the rest of your life with each other. So if you really want to know who you are agreeing to love for ever and ever, unleash your questions on them today.
Can you comfortably and openly discuss your sexual needs, preferences and fears?
Although many couples have pre-marital sex, this doesn’t mean that their sex lives are perfect and trouble-free. Any sexual issues have to be dealt with in the moment. Couples need to agree to reopen any pending issues regularly in the future. By dealing with these discussions before getting married, they can help stay away from future arguments and guarantee that their marriage will be happy and healthy.


Confronting the issue
There is no way of predicting the future when it comes to an individual's sexual libido. However, if the couple is already having sexual issues, they shouldn't get married until the issues are settled.
Differences in sexual frequency, desire, preferences, fantasies, masturbation, pornography, expectations, etc. will tear a couple apart. If they are unable to talk about their issues, or if they don’t see any real problem, or don’t want to talk about sex with each other,  they should cancel the wedding.
Intimacy Vs Sex
Being intimate is an important part of a married couple's relationship. But having sex isn't enough to guarantee marital intimacy: talking about sex is important. The couple needs to feel that you they can trust telling each other about their sexual needs. They should feel comfortable sharing their desires with their partners. They should be able to talk about how many times a week their partner expects to have sex in their marriage, and about how many times they expect to have it too. 
They should be able to express freely if they are happy with their sex lives, and state what they like the most about it and what they wish was different.
Recognizing Sex Problems
Most relationships go through patches where everything is not as it should be. The key to solving issues is good communication, knowing when to seek help, but most importantly recognizing common sex problems that women, men and couples can face. 
Sex problems that couples can face can include: Anxiety and sex, depression and how it affects sex, difficulty with climaxing, orgasm and headaches, painful intercourse, sex after abdominal diseases, sex and alcohol/cancer/neurological disorders/heart disease, sex therapy...
Sexual problems for women can include: Trouble reaching orgasm, bacterial vaginosis,  cervicitis, clitoris problems, female sexual arousal disorder, vaginal size, lack of sex drive, painful orgasms, sex after giving birth, and sex after menopause...
As for male sexual problems, some could be: medicines that disrupt sex life, delayed ejaculation, dry orgasms, impotence, lack of sex drive, penile prostheses, and premature ejaculation…
Sex is a love-promoting factor
People who have sex with each other a few times, and who find that it's gone really well, often tend to discover that they are starting to fall in love with each other.
So what about couples who are in love with each other, and then the sex starts going wrong? Is it safe to assume they fall out of love? If so, isn’t it worthy of any couple’s time and effort to give the topic of sex some time before saying “I do?”
Don't neglect discussing the most important details of your marriage before you tie the knot. It is better to get all your questions answered now than later.