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By : Judy Chammas   
HAPPIER WITHIN With a Positive Attitude

We have all heard it said that another person cannot make us happy. We have all been told that happiness comes from within. We all somehow know that happiness and positive thinking are interrelated. But how do we start on this path of positiveness? Just because we want to be positive doesn’t mean we can always be so. So how does it work? What should we do?

All too often, the answers to our questions are staring us in the face. It makes sense that positive leads to positive and negative leads to negative. However, research has been confirming the roles that positive thinking and positive emotions play in us lead productive and satisfying lives, and this is a major focus of the new “positive psychology.”

What is positive thinking?
Positive thinking doesn't mean that we ignore life's less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that we approach the unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. We think the best is going to happen, not the worst. We all have what is called, “automatic thoughts.” These thoughts are unspoken and just run through our heads. When they are mostly negative, we are more likely to be pessimists, but if our thoughts are mostly positive, we’re probably optimists - we are positive thinkers.
Positive thinking is an attitude that opens our mind to thoughts, words and images that encourage growth, development and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results.
A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful result.

How to be positive
People often wonder how to be positive. It seems an impossible endeavor when we are unhappy and unsatisfied, or when life is difficult and tough.  The good news is that being positive can be learned and developed. It is all a matter of positive attitude and thinking, both of which can be changed. If we keep thinking the same thoughts, they will eventually start to come true. This means that if we desire good results we have to be careful of what we think. We have to stay and think positive.

To do List

• First step is to become aware of our thoughts, and to exchange our negative ones with positive ones. A poor person can focus on wealthy thoughts instead of on poor ones; a student can focus on all that he has learned rather than on what he doesn’t know… The life we live is our choice. If we think positively we will transform our lives accordingly. Everything starts from within us, from the simplest action to the greatest achievement. We cannot always have control over our external circumstances, but we can control our inner world of thoughts, where everything starts.

• We are unhappy and negative because of how we think, but we can change the way we think with a little work and effort.  This will you automatically change our attitudes, expectations, actions and reactions, and will lead to more motivation, happiness and improved life.

• Focus on what you want, not on what you do not want.

• Focus your mind on the good things you already have in your life. If you focus on them, these good things will increase in your life.

• Don’t fill your mind with thoughts of need. Think and believe that you already have abundance, success, love and happiness.

• Learn to feel, think and even act, as if you are already living the life you visualize. If you can feel, think and act consistently in this way, you will become happier, and will attract new opportunities into your life.

• Think about what you want, create a picture of it in your mind, and make it very clear and precise. Hold it there and focus on it in a positive way, until it becomes a reality in your life.

• Always tell yourself, "I can", "I am able", "I can do it", "I am a positive person".

• Often, during the day, repeat positive affirmations about what you want. Do so with faith, feelings, intention and focus.

• Look for the good in every situation. There is always something good, or at least something useful to learn, even in difficult or unpleasant situations.

• Follow your positive thoughts with positive actions.

• Always focus your mind on the full half of the cup, not on the empty half.
Do your best to reject negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts.

• Be aware of your company. Choose to be around positive people.

• Read about other people's success. Read things that inspire you and make you feel good.

• Focus your mind on how to be positive and you will discover more ways to be so.

We get what we expect to get, therefore, begin right now to expect the very best of everything that this world has to offer - and wish the same for everyone else.